self-love

Lessons from Asenath on how to forgive yourself and move forward

Lessons from Asenath on how to forgive yourself and move forward

So we’ve been doing a lot of talking about Rachel and Leah in the last few weeks, haven’t we lovely? With a particular emphasis on what they teach us about how our pasts can negatively influence us with goal setting. For example, setting goals with the wrong intentions/why or making “God’s word of no effect” by holding on to “tradition”.

The past can also keep us in bondage if we refuse to forgive ourselves for past mistakes, failures or lifestyle choices so that we can become the women of God that He ordained us to be. But never fear, lovely! Asenath (Rachel’s daughter-in-law) has much to teach us about the 4 step process of forgiving ourselves and moving forward so that we can avoid all that jazz (and much more!)- all of which I shared on my Facebook page this week via the (live) video below.

How to become more body positive with Dlang (Denisha) Ferguson

How to become more body positive with Dlang (Denisha) Ferguson

In today's interview, I will be talking about how to become more body confident with none other than the amazing Dlang Ferguson- the founder and creator of Dlang Designs and UnZIP the Runway over at Dlangdesigns.com.

By the end of this video you will know:

  • The difference between body positivity and body diversity (and why that’s so important in entrepreneurship)

  • How to feel confident and more body positive

  • How to launch a Kickstarter without burning out

  • And much more!

Sound like your cup of tea, lovely?

Great! You can do whatever it is you need to do to get comfortable and press play to access this awesome conversation, below:

How to build and maintain successful business relationships with Courtney Daniel

How to build and maintain successful business relationships with Courtney Daniel

In today's interview, I will be talking about how to build and maintain successful business relationships with none other than the amazing Courtney Daniel- client relations expert and a nationally recognised award-winning business owner over at Courtneydaniel.com (where she creates opportunities for expressing gratitude for clients who want to deepen relationships with their partners, colleagues and clients through custom stationery design, gift curation and VIP relationship management).

By the end of this video you will know:

  • The importance of saying “Thank you” and showing gratitude

  • How to build and maintain successful business relationships

  • The importance of being authentic and doing things that bring you joy

  • And much more!

Sound like your cup of tea, lovely?

Great! You can do whatever it is you need to do to get comfortable and press play to access this awesome conversation, below:

Lessons from the 10 Virgins on How to keep your light burning

Lessons from the 10 Virgins on How to keep your light burning

So last week, after all our talk about seeking first the Kingdom of God, I ended up going down a little bit of a rabbit hole looking at some more kingdom based parables.

This led me to Matthew 25 where Jesus told the story of the 10 virgins. This passage is seriously meaty and has so much to teach us; so I think that we'll be hanging out there for the next few weeks- especially in keeping with our recent discussions about relationships (here and here).

Today, however, we're going to be speaking about how to keep your light burning as a Christian woman and why that has everything to do with practicing self-care in order to not run out of "oil" (something I seriously struggled with this week!)- all of which I shared on my Facebook page this week via the (live) video below.

Lessons from the Shulamite Woman on God's Timing

Lessons from the Shulamite Woman on God's Timing

Unlike most of the women that we have studied so far, The Shulamite Woman is a fictional character. She is featured in The Song of Solomon as one of the main protagonists alongside her “beloved”. This book of the Bible is an extended piece of lyrical poetry written by King Solomon which, on the surface, appears to be about romantic love (although, like most scriptures about love and marriage, it also contains some parallels between these and Christ’s relationship with the church). As such, The Shulamite Woman has much to teach us- not only about this topic- but adhering to God’s timing.

Lessons from 5 Rebel Girls of the Bible

Lessons from 5 Rebel Girls of the Bible

This blog post was originally featured on Rising Tswana.

 

Recently I was scrolling through my Facebook newsfeed when I came across a video from Elena Favilli and Francesca Cavallo (of Rebelgirls.co) called “If Cinderella were a Guy”. Through this video, they highlight the fact that women are impacted by misogyny as early as childhood for the following reasons:  

which then give way to confidence issues by the time most girls reach primary or elementary school- more so than boys. In answer to the question of why this is so, Favilli and Cavallo pose one of their own: 

“They say that ‘If you can see it, you can be it.’ But what happens if you never see someone like you making the headlines? What happens when all that you see around you is movies, cartoons, books and TV shows dominated by men?” 

To counteract this, they created a book called “Goodnight Stories of Rebel Girls”- a collection of: 

“100 stories of real women who have achieved incredible things, despite all odds [because] every girl… deserves to grow up thinking that she can be anything she wants.” 

When I saw this video it instantly resonated with me. This, I noted, is definitely a problem in the secular world but it is also a problem within the church. Christian women therefore not only have to navigate systemic sexism such as gender pay gaps, mansplaining and rape culture, they also have  the added baggage of the misogyny that occurs within church, which includes the:  

  • Exacerbation of the problem of limited female representation (in terms of how little we are spoken of generally and in what contexts we are spoken about when we are discussed, particularly where the matriarchs of the faith are concerned)
  • Objectification of women's bodies (either as weapons for "tempting godly men" or for the sole purpose of pleasuring our husbands and having their babies) 
  • Depreciation of women's roles and identity (hence the continued debates around female leadership and preachers, and the idea that being a wife and mother is the "ultimate stamp of womanhood")  

All of these issues were highlighted via this recent article. Issues which I am personally acquainted with and served as both the frustration and inspiration behind launching this website last year.  

This website has allowed me the pleasure of challenging these stereotypes by interviewing a diverse range of Christian women from all walks of life (globally). I also continue to achieve this by discussing the “rebel girls” of the Bible through my weekly devotionals- women who shift traditional paradigms surrounding (Christian) femininity, such as: 

An Interview with Alyssa Braddix on Mary (Martha's sister)

An Interview with Alyssa Braddix on Mary (Martha's sister)

Today's interview feature comes from Alyssa Braddix who previously blogged at beautywithinhim.tumblr.com. Read on as she discusses Mary (of Mary and Martha fame), her favourite woman of the Bible, how she ties into her own personal testimony and what we as modern women can learn from Mary's example:

Lessons from Peninnah on the Nature of Bullies and Haters

Lessons from Peninnah on the Nature of Bullies and Haters

Like most women in the Bible, there are only a few verses dedicated to Peninnah. For those who have never heard of her- she is mentioned in 1st Samuel 1:2-7, which says:

"And [Elkanah] had two wives: the name of one was Hannah, and the name of the other Peninnah. Peninnah had children, but Hannah had no children. This man went up from his city yearly to worship and sacrifice to the Lord of hosts in Shiloh. Also the two sons of Eli, Hophni and Phinehas, the priests of the Lord, were there. And whenever the time came for Elkanah to make an offering, he would give portions to Peninnah his wife and to all her sons and daughters. But to Hannah he would give a double portion, for he loved Hannah, although the Lord had closed her womb. And her rival also provoked her severely, to make her miserable, because the Lord had closed her womb. So it was, year by year, when she went up to the house of the Lord, that she provoked her; therefore she wept and did not eat."

So, as you can see, Peninnah wasn't the nicest of people. Yet, I still feel that she has much to teach us, particularly about the nature of bullies and haters.

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