One of the things that tend to hold us back a lot, especially when it comes to our visibility goals, is the fact that we’re afraid of not showing up perfectly

Whether that be making mistakes or falling short of the image that we see in our mind’s eye

The problem with perfectionism is the lie that it tells us, which is since we can’t be perfect, we either:

• Shouldn't bother to try (i.e. “do it well or not at all”)

• Should beat ourselves up for our efforts (by engaging in negative self-talk)

Here's my question to you though, sis…

Since the week before last, I’ve been continuing to think about the fear of rejection, especially because I tuned into Jay-Z’s GQ interview

Have you seen it yet, sis?

It reminded me of this comment that I shared in my IG stories about how part of not taking nos personally is actually not allowing them to sit in your spirit. This is because…

We hear all the time that no (as in N.O) simply stands for "Next Opportunity"

Right, sis?

But how many of us actually believe it?

Here's why I ask 👇🏾

Recently in my stories I shared about how I have been prioritising my inner child

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Maybe you’ve been hearing a lot about inner child work and wondering what it is and how it can be beneficial, [insert name]?

Well…

A little known fact is that, especially when it comes to things like visibility and putting yourself out there, inner child work can actually help with things like imposter syndrome

Why?

Because…

I found this year’s International Women’s Day theme so interesting

Do you know what it was?

It was “Give to gain”

This was interesting to me because:

It reminded me of 2 things:

Often, in the conversations about having a “why,” we hear about the benefits

Like it being our North Star and keeping us going when the going gets tough or when life be life-ing

But what tends to be left out of those conversations is how intimidating our whys can be and/or how much they can lead to imposter syndrome

Because of their sheer size or the gap between what we want to achieve vs our experience/skill set

This is why I’m always comforted when I read stories about people who were confronted with huge tasks that God wanted them do and had similar responses

Like:

• Moses: who pointed out his stutter (as a disqualifying factor) when God called him to be His mouthpiece

• Peter: who told Jesus to get away from Him (because he felt unworthy) when he realised who He was

• Esther: who initially rejected her uncle’s plea to see the King because it was against the rules

• Sarah: who laughed when she heard she’d bear a child in her old age

The biggest thing that we can learn from those stories and apply to our own lives is that, as much as we may want to banish imposter syndrome because of how debilitating it can be, it doesn’t have to be that way

Because “[God’s] grace is sufficient… and [His] strength is made perfect in [our] weakness”

All of that to say…

When the ladies attended Media Magic, in Mykonos (Greece) last October, only 50% of them knew their why

I know this because of the results they got from my PR readiness assessment

This means that, at that point, they did not know what kind of impact they wanted to maķe in the world through PR

Which is an issue because not only does knowing your why keep you going when life be life-ing, in general, it helps you to remain steadfast ìn the face of having pitches ignored, rejected or ghosted

By the end of the retreat, though, I had them assess themselves again and the results revealed that 100% of them knew how to do this. What led to this success was…

Your lack of motivation is not a sign that you no longer care about your goals

Neither is your sluggishness

It is simply a sign to reconnect with your why

Or to find a better one

I mean, think about it