How to make a positive impact in the world

How to make a positive impact in the world

“Thank you for being the sent one to do and show us how possible it really is to execute an idea- a God-given idea… This is so deeply encouraging, Nina, honestly…”

This was a message that I received from my good sis, Rebekah, shortly after coming back from hosting Media Magic…

(the luxury retreat that I held in Tulum, Mexico in July teaching business women how to get PR for themselves)

…and updating her on how well it went

A theme that I was surprised to see come up in many other conversations that I would go on to have with loved ones afterwards

Aside from being beautiful words (that still have me emotional even now), there are a few key take-aways:

How to live your legacy now

How to live your legacy now

My grandma was born in the village in Nigeria at a time where girls were not sent to school

That meant from then until the time of her passing in 2022, she never learned to read or write

Despite this, she worked her butt off as a trader in order to afford my mum's school fees when she was growing up

This is because, to this day, education is not free in Nigeria

My mum was then able to move to the UK in the early 80s, where I've been born and raised, and push both me and my sister all the way to degree level

What to do when people don't support you

What to do when people don't support you

When I first started to gain traction with PR it was as a blogger in the first quarter of 2017. However, by that December, I was ready to quit writing all together

Here's why 👇🏾

"If someone who I've considered a sister for 10 years could so misconstrue and under rate my writing," I remember thinking, "What hope is there that strangers will get me?"

And so, like I said, I seriously considered calling it quits with The Far Above Rubies Collection and all the business ideas that I hoped would come out of it

Fast forward to now and I am an award winning blogger, international speaker and freelance writer who has not only been able to monetise my gift but get featured on platforms such as Thrive Global, The TEDx blog, HuffPost, Bustle, Mic, Addicted2Success, Black Ballad and more. I also just got rave reviews for Media Magic (the luxury retreat that I held in Tulum, Mexico in July teaching business women how to get PR for themselves)

What led to this success was...

Why you need BHAGs

Why you need BHAGs

Have you ever heard of a BHAG?

(pronounced bee-hag)

According to Jim Collins and Jerry Porras, who coined the phrase, it stands for "Big, Hairy, Audacious Goal"

It can be defined as follows:

"It’s a goal that has a clear finish line so you know when you have achieved the goal. And it’s one that you have a 50 percent to 70 percent chance of achieving. It’s not something so outlandish that it’s highly unlikely that you will ever achieve it, but it’s definitely something you’ll have to stretch yourself to make happen" (Rachel Rodgers).

Although BHAGs have many benefits

Such as:

Why who you know matters more than what you know

Why who you know matters more than what you know

Recently, I had the pleasure of spending the afternoon with my godson, Max

He just turned 2

We sang nursery rhymes (like the wheels on the bus), watched Baby Shark and played with the baby proof version of a marble run that I got him for his birthday

We had great fun lol

What's also great about Max is that, so long as he was occupied, he would leave me and his mum (my good sis, Isata) to chat

Which was great because we had so much to catch up on

The only time he'd interrupt us was to let us know that he needed help with something

Like fixing a toy, getting something open or what not

Which got me thinking, we need to be more like Max and not suffer in silence

Here's why

Why this simple question will get you anything you want in life

Why this simple question will get you anything you want in life

When I was a toddler, my mum says that I was mesmerised by the fireplace

So much so that I wouldn't heed her warnings not to go near it

One day, exasperated with this constant song and dance, she allowed me to touch the rail that guarded it

According to her, not only did I immediately pull my hand back from the heat, I never tried to get close to the fireplace again

In other words, this (newfound) fear protected me and kept me safe

Here’s my point 👇🏾

How to overcome imposter syndrome

How to overcome imposter syndrome

Before Sarah achieved her dream of conceiving Isaac, she disqualified herself- believing she was too old to do so

Hence the whole Hagar debacle

Yet Hebrews 11:11 makes it clear that she went on to receive "strength to conceive seed, and...bore a child when she was past the age..."

Which means that none of her "undesirable" circumstances changed in order for her to achieve her dream, so what did?

Sarah was able to do this "by faith" because "she judged Him faithful who had promised" (Hebrews 11:11)

In other words, she took her eyes off her perceived inadequacies and placed them on God

That was the game changer that helped her to get what she wanted and is the thing that has helped me in every iteration of my entrepreneurial journey, including my most recent one with Media Magic

My retreat for business women who want to uncover a quick and systemised process to pitch the media so that they can get onto more top platforms, be seen as industry experts, and start raking in larger paydays

Want to get out of the chokehold that imposter syndrome has on you too?

How to overcome fear to achieve your goals

How to overcome fear to achieve your goals

"So you really want me to do this, huh God?",

This was something I said to Him while I was actually on the plane to Mexico

It seems stupid now, and me and my loved ones have definitely laughed at this when I've told them about it...but that's how surreal it felt to be hosting my first retreat

A retreat where I would be teaching business women a quick and systemised process to pitch the media so that they can get onto more top platforms, be seen as industry experts, and start raking in larger paydays.

Thinking about it now, I know that this was because of a phenomenon called "confirmation bias"

Which, according to Steven Barlett is caused by the fact that "humans tend to search for, favour and recall information in a way that confirms or supports their existing beliefs or values"

In other words, I had no evidence that I could actually jump the final hurdle of hosting a retreat; so I still found it hard to reconcile that this was my new identity and reality

This, despite all the:

  • Praying

  • Planning

  • Meetings

  • Coordinating with and for attendees etc

That had got me up to this point

According to Bartlett this is typical as "the further [your] new evidence [or reality] is from [your] current beliefs, the less likely it is to change [your] thinking". This was especially true for me because of my background

You see, it's deeper than the fact that this was my first retreat