How to turn a no into a yes

We hear all the time that no (as in N.O) simply stands for "Next Opportunity"

Right, sis?

But how many of us actually believe it?

Here's why I ask 👇🏾

If you've been rocking with me for a while, you'll know that I've written for Black Ballad many a time

And I recently pitched them something again

But…

Unfortunately, the first thing that I pitched was basically a no but, while waiting for their reply, I'd already started brewing and thinking about another idea

So when I got the email basically saying, "Do you know what, Nina? Not this time for that particular story."

I emailed back, like I normally do, saying "Thank you very much for letting me know;" then quickly added: "I also have xyz idea. Do you think that this is something that the community would enjoy?" Lo and behold, the answer to that was “Yes”

The lesson? Don't take nos:

  • Personally

  • As a failure

  • As a sign to just slink off into a hole and never try again

Half of the battle of visibility really is just showing up and persistence

More than that, though

I would say it's also just having a heart to serve e.g.

Not viewing it as being about you and your agenda, but:

"How can I help this particular platform and their people?"

Because, if that’s the case, you’ll keep seeking opportunities to contribute (even if at first you don’t succeed)

So, yeah, I thought I would share that little tidbit, both as:

  • Encouragement

  • A kick up the backside if you’ve been letting the fear of failure and/or rejection hold you back

Rejection doesn’t stop me because I don’t let it. The question is, will you?